Choosing to Create a Life…That You Want.

What do you want?

When was the last time you asked yourself that question and really gave an honest courageous answer?

This question is one of two questions that are the cornerstone of serving my clients. The other question is: What matters most?

When I ask my coaching clients the first question they often freeze, the space gets very still then they begin to tell me what they don’t want.

I ask if I can pause them a moment and restate the question.

“What do you want?”

When they realize that I’m serious, that I’m listening and most importantly that I care. They often repeat the question.

“What do I want?” More silence. Sometimes tears.

“No one has asked me that for a long time.”

As a coach, it’s important not to rush in while this is going on. The same is true if you are a leader and you ask this question of your team. Give them space to feel the question before they answer it if that’s what they need.

 This is an honest and sometimes private question. It’s a deep question that may take you a while to answer. It’s a good question that can move your forward.

What do you want? Maybe you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what your company needs or about the other things that are your responsibility.

Now, it’s time for you to get quiet and still and allow the deepest part of yourself to respond. You may be surprised at what comes up.

There are no right or wrong answers to this question. It’s all about you.

Having a clear picture of what you want will help you move forward in the direction that’s in alignment with what’s the most important to you.  It will also help you put aside the things that are not in line with what you want, things that become defeating obstacles.

To create the life that you want, you must have clarity about what you want your life, work or business to look like.

Take a moment, ask the question. Write it down. Move forward.